After Losing Their Two Children, Parents Ask Court to Release Grandfather Stephen Schneider

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August 25, 2026

After Losing Their Two Children, Parents Ask Court to Release Grandfather Stephen Schneider

The heartbreaking case surrounding the deaths of siblings Mya Bella Golabek, 9, and Sigmund Paul Golabek, 7, has taken an extraordinary turn after their parents asked a New Jersey judge to release the children’s grandfather, Stephen Schneider, while he awaits trial.

The request has drawn attention because Schneider is facing serious criminal charges connected to the July 19 boating crash on Barnegat Bay that claimed the lives of his two grandchildren. Yet amid their grief, Mya and Sigmund’s parents described Schneider not simply as the man accused in the case, but as a beloved member of their family and a grandfather who had played an important role in their children’s lives. (News 12 – Default)

A Family Evening That Ended in Tragedy

According to reports, the evening of July 19 began as a family gathering in Bayville, New Jersey. The families had been together for dinner before the children later boarded their grandfather’s boat.

Mya, 9, and her younger brother Sigmund, 7, were aboard a roughly 30-foot Tidewater vessel operated by their grandfather, 64-year-old Stephen Schneider. His wife, Laurie Schneider, was also aboard.

The boat was traveling on Barnegat Bay when it struck an Intracoastal Waterway channel marker at approximately 9 p.m. The impact threw both children into the water. Authorities said the grandparents recovered the children, and emergency efforts followed before the siblings were taken to a local hospital, where they were pronounced dead. (AOL)

The tragedy devastated their parents, Sigmund and Jennifer Golabek, who had lost their only two children.

Reports have described Mya and Sigmund as siblings who shared an especially close bond. Their deaths left behind a family facing an unimaginable absence, while investigators continued examining what happened during the boat trip.

Charges Against Their Grandfather

Nearly a month after the crash, Schneider was arrested and charged with two counts of second-degree reckless vessel homicide/death by vessel, along with charges related to operating a vessel under the influence and reckless operation of a vessel, according to New Jersey State Police and local reporting. (Daily Voice)

Prosecutors later argued that alcohol played a significant role in the crash.

At a detention hearing, prosecutors said Schneider’s blood alcohol concentration was approximately 0.16%, which is twice New Jersey’s legal limit of 0.08%. Assistant Ocean County Prosecutor Kate Burke argued that the reported level demonstrated the degree of impairment involved in operating the vessel. (News 12 – Default)

Schneider’s defense, however, emphasized his lack of a criminal history and the extraordinary circumstances surrounding the case. His attorney also pointed to the wishes of the children’s parents, who did not want Schneider to remain behind bars while the case moved forward.

Schneider has not been convicted. The charges remain allegations, and the criminal case will have to proceed through the court system.

The Father’s Letter

Perhaps the most unexpected moment came during the hearing when Schneider’s attorney presented letters from the parents of Mya and Sigmund asking the court to release him.

The children’s father, Sigmund Golabek, described Schneider in deeply personal terms.

According to News 12, his letter called Schneider a “wonderful father-in-law, loving grandfather and a man with a generous heart.” The father also expressed gratitude for the way Schneider had loved his children, the role he had played in their lives and the example he had provided for them. (News 12 – Default)

The words carried extraordinary emotional weight because they came from a father who had just lost both of his children.

Rather than asking the court to keep Schneider incarcerated, the parents wanted him released while awaiting trial.

Their position does not mean that they accepted everything surrounding the crash or that the legal allegations disappeared. Instead, their request reflected a complicated reality of grief: Schneider was also the grandfather who had loved Mya and Sigmund and had been part of their family for years.

For the surviving family, the relationship could not simply be reduced to the criminal allegations now before the court.

A Judge Grants Conditional Release

Superior Court Judge Wendel Daniels ultimately granted Schneider release while he awaits trial.

News 12 reported that the judge considered several factors, including Schneider’s lack of a criminal history and the fact that the children’s parents had asked for his release. The court nevertheless imposed restrictions on him while the case continues. (News 12 – Default)

Schneider is not permitted to operate a boat or a motor vehicle pending further evaluation by the court, according to the report.

His defense attorney argued that the tragedy had fundamentally changed Schneider’s life and family. The attorney also said Schneider would likely never operate a boat again and would not return to drinking. (News 12 – Default)

The prosecution strongly disagreed with releasing him.

Prosecutors characterized the circumstances as catastrophic and argued that the reported alcohol level demonstrated a serious degree of impairment. Their position was that Schneider should remain detained while the criminal case proceeded. (News 12 – Default)

Ultimately, the judge reached a different conclusion and allowed Schneider to return home under court-ordered conditions.

The Human Side of an Extraordinary Court Decision

The decision has prompted difficult questions about forgiveness, family loyalty and grief.

In many cases involving the loss of children, surviving parents might be expected to demand the harshest possible treatment for anyone accused of causing the tragedy. Here, the parents made a profoundly different choice.

Their letters showed that their relationship with Schneider was far more complicated than the charges alone might suggest.

For Sigmund and Jennifer Golabek, Schneider was not simply a defendant. He was the grandfather of their children, a father-in-law, and someone they described as an important and loving presence in their family.

That distinction does not determine the outcome of the criminal case. It does, however, help explain why the parents made such an unusual request.

Their decision also illustrates how grief does not always follow a predictable path. A person can experience overwhelming anger, sadness, love and forgiveness at the same time. In this case, the parents appear to have separated their love for the grandfather from the painful circumstances surrounding the crash.

Mya and Sigmund Remembered

Behind the courtroom arguments are two children whose lives ended far too soon.

Mya Bella Golabek was 9 years old. Her younger brother, Sigmund Paul Golabek, was 7. Family and obituary accounts remembered the siblings for their close relationship and the bond they shared. (AOL)

Their story began as an ordinary family evening and became a tragedy that has left their parents and relatives facing a future without the two children who had been at the center of their lives.

The legal proceedings cannot change that loss.

What they can determine is accountability and the conditions under which Schneider will remain free while the case moves toward trial.

For now, he remains charged but not convicted.

The court’s decision to release him does not end the case. It only determines where he will await the next stage of the legal process.

And perhaps the most striking part of the story remains the words of the children’s father: even after losing Mya and Sigmund, he could still remember Schneider as the loving grandfather who had been there for their family.

That decision does not erase the pain of what happened. Instead, it reveals something deeply human about the family left behind — that even in the darkest moments of grief, love and compassion can exist alongside unanswered questions and the search for justice.

The case is expected to continue in New Jersey court, where the allegations against Schneider will ultimately be tested through the legal process. Until then, Mya and Sigmund’s parents must continue living with an unimaginable loss while navigating a case involving someone they once trusted as part of their own family. (News 12 – Default)