On May 21, 2017, a 20-year-old woman vanished from her Houston apartment.

Her name was Shapammala “Pam” Buckner.

More than eight years later, her family is still asking the same devastating question:

Where is she?

This is not just another missing person case. It is a story of fear, unanswered calls for help, and a young woman who was last heard pleading for safety inside her own home.

A Young Life in Houston

Pam was just 20 years old. Petite at 4’11” and around 100 pounds, she was described by loved ones as gentle, caring, and full of potential. She had her whole life ahead of her.

At the time of her disappearance, Pam was living in Houston, Texas, with her boyfriend, Stephan Bell, who was serving in the Army. Their life appeared simple on the surface — a young couple building a future together.

But tensions had been building behind closed doors.

Stephan’s brother and sister had been facing instability in their own lives. They began showing up at the couple’s apartment uninvited. Though Pam and Stephan had made it clear they did not want additional roommates, the visits continued.

Sometimes they stayed overnight.

Sometimes they lingered for hours.

Pam reportedly felt uneasy about the situation. Friends later said she sensed something was off. There were whispers about Stephan’s brother having a violent reputation. While much of that remains alleged, the atmosphere inside that apartment was tense.

And on May 21, that tension exploded.

The Day Everything Changed

Stephan was away on military orders when his siblings arrived again.

They said they just needed to pick up clothes.

Pam didn’t feel safe.

She called Stephan and told him they were there. According to reports, despite her fear, he instructed her to let them inside.

She did.

And they didn’t leave.

Feeling trapped and frightened, Pam retreated to her bedroom and locked the door. She called her aunt and urgently asked to be picked up. She was scared.

At some point, the bedroom door was allegedly broken down.

What happened next is described as hours of assault and violence.

A neighbor heard fighting and became concerned. The neighbor texted Pam to ask if she was okay. In distress, Pam replied and told the neighbor to call the police.

🚨 Police did arrive.

They knocked.

No one answered.

They left.

That moment still haunts those who know her story. If the door had been forced open. If someone had insisted on entry. If there had been further investigation.

Would Pam still be here?

The Last Known Moments

Shortly after police left, Pam’s aunt arrived at the apartment to pick her up.

Instead of finding Pam, she was met outside by a relative of Stephan.

“Pam isn’t here.”

That was the explanation.

Later, Stephan was allegedly told that Pam had “left him for another man.”

But the facts did not match that claim.

Pam’s phone was still inside the apartment.

Her keys were there.

Her clothes were hanging in the closet.

Her belongings had not been touched.

There was no packed bag. No sign of preparation. No evidence she intended to leave.

Pam had vanished.

A Disappearance With No Closure

Since that day, Pam Buckner has never been seen again.

No confirmed sightings.

No recovered remains.

No arrests.

No charges.

Her family has endured eight years of waiting — waiting for answers, for accountability, for someone to say what really happened inside that apartment.

The silence has been deafening.

Pam was more than a headline. She was a daughter. A sister. A friend. A young mother. A woman who deserved safety in her own home.

Instead, her last known hours were filled with fear.

The Questions That Remain

Pam’s case raises troubling questions:

• Why did police leave without further investigation after receiving a distress call?

• What exactly happened in that apartment after the bedroom door was broken down?

• Who knows more than they have said?

• Where is Pam?

Her disappearance is not simply a missing persons case. It represents a breakdown — in protection, in accountability, in justice.

For her family, the pain is compounded by uncertainty. Grief without a body. Mourning without proof. Birthdays without answers.

The Human Cost of Silence

When a case goes cold, the world often moves on.

Families do not.

Every holiday is different. Every milestone is a reminder. Every phone call from an unknown number carries a flicker of hope.

Pam’s loved ones continue to advocate for her, to speak her name, to demand renewed attention.

Because silence helps no one.

And time should not erase responsibility.

Remembering Pam

Pam Buckner was 20 years old.

She had dreams. Plans. People who loved her.

She deserved the chance to grow older, to build a career, to raise her child, to experience the fullness of life.

Instead, her story froze on May 21, 2017.

Her disappearance remains unsolved.

Her family remains without closure.

And the question remains unanswered:

Where is Pam Buckner?

Why Her Story Must Be Told

Cases like Pam’s remind us how vulnerable someone can be — even inside their own home. They remind us that cries for help must be taken seriously. They remind us that justice delayed feels like justice denied.

Her story deserves attention.

Her family deserves truth.

Pam deserves dignity and remembrance.

If you know anything about her disappearance, contact Houston authorities or Crime Stoppers. Even the smallest detail could matter.

Eight years is too long.

Say her name.

Remember that she was more than what happened to her.

And refuse to let her story fade into silence.